I have orgasms while dreaming — better than sex with men
Sleep comes easily to this Brazilian beauty — but it’s making her sex life a waking nightmare.
Relationship coach Marza Tovo says she experiences “pulsating” orgasms while dreaming about women and finds that men can’t compete when trying to make her climax in real life.
“I’m constantly comparing my nocturnal orgasms and the orgasms I have with a partner,” Tovo, 43, told the Sun on Friday.
“They’re just so much stronger during my sleep. I have really crazy nights thanks to nocturnal orgasms — they contract and pulsate, I really enjoy them.”
Nocturnal orgasms are not uncommon for women, with around 37% of all females experiencing one by the age of 45, according to one report.
However, the sleep phenomenon is rarely discussed among women, with Tovo now wanting to break down the taboo.
“You’ll be asleep, wondering if you’re lucid or dreaming, and you’ll just feel deep contractions in your pelvic floor,” she gushed.
“My advice to women everywhere would be not to feel ashamed,” the brunette further declared. “Just lie back and enjoy the ride.”
Tovo told the outlet that she has only had sexual relationships with men in real life, but finds the nocturnal orgasms only occur when she’s dreaming about women.
She further claimed that the intensity of the orgasms “always” wake her up.
“These always happen to me when I’m having hot dreams,” the beauty explained. “I believe you can tune into them, even if you’re asleep, and be fully aware that they’re happening.”
Despite her real-life lovers being unable to compete with the dream-induced climaxes she experiences, Tovo said she wouldn’t change a thing about her body.
However, the Brazilian isn’t the only woman to speak out about orgasming while catching some Zs.
Last year, Canadian writer Brianne Hogan revealed that she could climax while dreaming.
The wordsmith also revealed that it was common for her to accidentally orgasm while pooping and sneezing.
“It’s totally normal,” Hogan declared. “We are sensitive humans who have bodies filled with sensitive nerve endings. It happens!”
Meanwhile, a recent study found that even if women have time for real-life sex — they rarely have time to achieve the big O.
Reaching a climax isn’t always the goal in the bedroom — sometimes you’re in too much of a rush to get flush.
Women are less likely to pursue orgasms if they are under a time constraint or have a selfish partner, according to the Rutgers University-led research.
“There are contextual, societal and personal factors that likely create barriers that prevent women from feeling able to actively pursue orgasm,” said Grace Wetzel, a Rutgers social psychology doctoral student who advocates for “orgasm equality” on Instagram, where she has more than 21,000 followers.
According to the study, published in the Journal of Sex Research, women use cues and adjust their pursuit of an orgasm in each sexual encounter.
In a series of experiments, researchers had heterosexual women imagine themselves in a sexual scenario and consider how much time they had or how selfish their partner seemed.
According to Wetzel, the research indicated women who pursue orgasm as a goal are more likely to reach climax.
Whereas men tend to orgasm more often than women in heterosexual partnerships — known as the “orgasm gap” — researchers suggested that male partners can create a sexually stimulating environment in which a woman’s orgasm is more likely by incorporating clitoral stimulation and sexual communication.
Wetzel suggested that men should tell their female partners that they want their bedmate’s pleasure to be a priority, without putting pressure on their partners to orgasm.